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"Converse" (VortexAutosport) 12/06/2013 at 01:30 • Filed to: None

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I haz them. Just trolling Oppo after fighting with my fiance for the better part of today. of course it's all been about trivial stuff (aren't all fights amongst couples). But today has been bad overall for us. I know we'll get through it. Just not fun.

On OppoMobile(?) so no pics to reward your readership. Just had to post, because it feels worse than normal.

PatBateman > Converse 12/06/2013 at 01:34

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As a man who has been married for 10+ years, with her for 15, please take my suggestion to heart.

APOLOGIZE. It doesn't matter what the fight was about, who was in the right, or which party has the high ground.

Apologize if you love her. She will do the same, and all will be right with the world.

When this works, please post a McLaren P1 in the morning.

Converse > PatBateman 12/06/2013 at 01:39

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I've apologized 3 times today. At various times. After said problem. It's just one of those days that we argue for the day. Made worse by the fact that I leave town for work tomorrow morning until Sunday night.

Trying to be as amicable as possible, just nothing is jiving with us today. Even brought her coffee. At work. After going to the wrong farmers market to buy groceries for her to make something for a Christmas party I won't be able to attend with her.

Not worried about anything, just frustrated after doing so much....

Converse > PatBateman 12/06/2013 at 01:40

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It might take more than a day, but a P1 (pic) is on the way.

PatBateman > Converse 12/06/2013 at 01:43

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And here is my stereotypical guy speech: it doesn't matter what you did. Some chicks just have a bad day. It's good that you already apologized, but I would advise you to keep at it. When you leave for work (which might be the root of her attitude) call her and tell her that you love her, and that she's the only girl for you.

Chicks are weird like that, as you probably already know.

PatBateman > Converse 12/06/2013 at 01:44

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No worries.

Manuél Ferrari > Converse 12/06/2013 at 01:44

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RiceRocketeer Extraordinaire > Converse 12/06/2013 at 01:46

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My parents used to fight over which end of the toothpaste tube to squeeze from.

Converse > PatBateman 12/06/2013 at 01:47

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I know. She is weird upon weird. In that her personality type is very CEO and she acts (emotionally) like a dude. Unless she doesn't.

I'm doing my best. Drinking a little too much (on both sides) probably didn't help.

I stormed out of our room after (bullheadedly) giving up on trying to move forward. I know it isn't my shining moment. But after cooling off, maybe I should try again. After all, she is the most intelligent person I've ever met. Yay.

Wish me luck. And here's to the P1 picture I owe you!

Converse > RiceRocketeer Extraordinaire 12/06/2013 at 01:48

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The middle right?

The man in the iron mask > Converse 12/06/2013 at 01:53

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I heard this on the radio the other day, nice song

Icemanmaybeirunoutofthetalents > Converse 12/06/2013 at 01:58

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You'd mentioned that you will be away, in another comment. Send her flowers when you're away with a note. Might help. Sometimes not being in the same area together helps. And when you're not there, reminding her of the better things helps even more :)

RiceRocketeer Extraordinaire > Converse 12/06/2013 at 02:11

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I bought a second tube so they'd each have their own. It didn't work.

Manuél Ferrari > Converse 12/06/2013 at 02:40

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LOL I know the type. The girl I'm in love with seems like a dude emotionally, until she doesn't anymore and goes into full on chick mode. It's very confusing. She can be so cut and dry and seem so tough that I forget she's still just as emotional as every other girl if something triggers it. This would get me into trouble all the time for the year we dated. And like every other girl there were things that were important to her that she never told me she wanted... until we broke up and she told me the list of things I did wrong.

It was a crazy year. Then we spent a few months not talking at all. Then we became friends again. Then I told her I want her back. Now she's "thinking about it". I'm trying to distract myself by going on dates with other girls while she makes up her mind but it's not really working. I just want her crazy ass back...

Manuél Ferrari > Converse 12/06/2013 at 02:46

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I have an odd theory on fights. I think that as long as they don't get out of hand they are a good thing. Cause if your girl causes fights over nonsense and you don't go running it shows you really love her.

If you don't love a girl then you get over the fights and bounce. It's only when you still want to stay even though she drives you crazy that you know it's real!

Converse > Manuél Ferrari 12/06/2013 at 06:27

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I more than somewhat agree. A little fight gets us on the same page about things and puts it all in perspective. This has been brewing (and it seriously is my fault) and has taken a full day, or more, for us to work it out.

Converse > Manuél Ferrari 12/06/2013 at 06:29

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Tell her that. Make sure she knows you're serious. The most important thing about relationships is to be totally honest and open with each other. It starts with telling someone you really like them and then progresses to, "let's figure out if we should truly be together for the real deal".

Stupidru > Converse 12/06/2013 at 09:15

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As Red-Green would say,

"I'm a man, but I can change... if I have to... I guess."

philipilihp > Manuél Ferrari 12/06/2013 at 09:55

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Damn you, crazy but awesome women.

JGrabowMSt > Converse 12/06/2013 at 11:12

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You'll be okay, you just need to learn the ways of girl nights and it'll make up for it. My gf is very fragile, so I dont fight with her. Ever. We've never had a fight, and the same goes with all of my exes. The most recent ex tried to fight, so I ended that relationship completely because no fight is a good fight. Here's a secret from my late grandmother about fighting:

One day visiting my grandma, just as I was entering high school (I was about 15), she said she had a present for me. She had found a very tiny boxing mitt that was given to her and handed it to me. She said "no matter what, you can't get into a fight with a significant other until you can put this on." So, laughing (at the time), I took it, and promised her never to get into fights.

I've kept the mitt by my bed ever since, as a reminder that fighting is not allowed. Just picture how silly you would both look wearing these, and laugh about things instead of getting upset.

Manuél Ferrari > philipilihp 12/06/2013 at 13:36

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Seeorisly... The crazier they are the more I fall for them, haha

Manuél Ferrari > Converse 12/06/2013 at 20:41

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And now you know you really love her cause you wanted to work it out instead of escaping to Mexico!

Some couples don't fight cause they avoid conflict. But they end up pushing the issues deeper and not dealing with them until it's too late. Fighting sucks but better to do it and then resolve the issue and learn from it so it doesn't keep happening.

Manuél Ferrari > Converse 12/06/2013 at 20:52

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I should elaborate what she meant when she said "she's thinking about it". She does want to date again. She just wants time before making it serious again. Her life is even crazier than it was before so she doesn't have a lot of time to dedicate to me. And she wants to make sure I've learned from my previous mistakes before she commits and becomes my girlfriend. She wants me to date other people so she doesn't feel bad about how much she's working.

It's funny cause some guys would think I'm in the perfect situation. I can date other girls that aren't looking for anything serious then so it doesn't hurt them that I can't commit. But I really only want the girl I love. I saw her today for a little and it was so great. If and when she's ready to commit I will be 100% ready. I screwed up last time when I got scared to make things really serious because I'm a dumb guy and am scared of commitment. But this time I won't hesitate.

If only we all had the ability to go back in time and tell the future versions of ourselves not to make the mistakes we were going to make. I might be a DeLorean just in case the flux capacitor is invented and only works with that car!